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Adoption Awareness Month: What I Wish the Church Knew About The Real Scriptural Meaning of “Visiting the Orphan”

Adoption Awareness Month: What I Wish the Church Knew About The Real Scriptural Meaning of “Visiting the Orphan”

I had read James 1:27 numerous times before realizing: all I had to do was “visit” the orphans. I didn’t really have to bring all their brokenness and it’s fallout into my personal space. Did I? So as I pondered National Adoption Month and what to write, I thought maybe I should dig a little into Scripture to help discern what this all really means. “Religion” in this passage is generally understood to mean “worship”—a natural overflow of love in…

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Adoption Awareness Month: What I Wish the Church Knew About The Real Adoptive Child

Adoption Awareness Month: What I Wish the Church Knew About The Real Adoptive Child

She waltzes through the church, charming grandmas with her sweet-dimpled grin and black curls, enticing friends with generosity, beguiling teachers with clever responses, entertaining classrooms with humor, and impressing ushers with politeness. He does the same. They all do. The most common symptom of a child with attachment issues is their ability to charm others. They’re not necessarily trying to con people. They are simply employing survival techniques they learned in their formative years of life. If you go to…

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Sometimes Halloween Creeps Me Out

Sometimes Halloween Creeps Me Out

I hope this doesn’t sound like a rant. Just an acknowledgement of where I’m at. I’m not interested in swaying anyone into my way of thinking. (Actually, that’s probably not true. Otherwise I wouldn’t be writing sharing my thoughts with you. What is true is that I’m not interested in arguing about a topic that has been debated for decades without resolution.) What I’m wondering is … How can I feel more enthused about Halloween this year? Or should I?…

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Have We Misunderstood the Cross We’re Called to Bear?

Have We Misunderstood the Cross We’re Called to Bear?

“I guess this is our cross to bear,” she said to our group of adoptive moms. We all nodded our agreement, somehow feeling comforted by that thought. Have you ever found comfort in defining heavy things in life as your cross to bear? Somehow we believe that trudging through life bowed beneath some cumbersome load is what God has called us to. And if parenting children from hard places is our cross, then we don’t have to blame ourselves, or…

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It’s Time to Sing, Sister!

It’s Time to Sing, Sister!

Last week I directed readers to Lucille Zimmerman who had shared some coping techniques for those struggling with trauma. One of her suggestions: Sing She said that though it sounds odd (the idea, that is), singing actually helps. That suggestion piqued my interest. My dad was a music minister for several years and my mom played the piano. We sang a lot in our home. On occasion, my dad would line up us four little girls on the church podium…

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It’s Cross-Country Season. Four Tips for Running Well?

It’s Cross-Country Season. Four Tips for Running Well?

A few weeks ago Bob told me about the dream he’d had the night before. We were trying to leave for a trip and he was being slowed down by a myriad of obstacles, including a pool of ice cream. WHAT??? Have you had those sorts of dreams—where you are trying to go somewhere or get a job done, and a thousand things (even good things) keep slowing you down and tripping you up? That’s not a dream, you say. Welcome…

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Do You Have a Pied Piper in Your Pocket?

Do You Have a Pied Piper in Your Pocket?

“What is the greatest challenge facing young moms today?“ I asked this of mommy-blogger Leah Heffner who writes over at Life Around the Coffee Cup. She was actually interviewing me for her soon-to-be-released podcast series, but she offered me an opportunity to ask her a question. It’s been a while since I had children at home and I was curious what weighs today’s mommies down. In about two seconds she said exactly what I thought she might. Young moms today,…

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Jail Is Not My Monkey

Jail Is Not My Monkey

We sat on the restaurant’s patio, lulled by an unusually cool, late-afternoon breeze. Friends drawn together ten years ago by the common experience of mothering adopted children. Over the years we’ve shared challenges and losses, blessings and wins. Even with our kids now all grown, some of these moms are still going through the wringer. One mom, near tears, relayed her heaviness. Her fear that her child might end up going to jail, again. Thinking she was alone in this…

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When the Enemy Comes in Like a Flood

When the Enemy Comes in Like a Flood

{I’m excited to share with you a piece I wrote for (in)courage that published, September 13, two days after this blog posted. Head on over to read A Terror-Defying Vacation. (in)courage is an online Christian women’s community, built by DaySpring, the Christian branch of Hallmark. (in)courage’s daily devotionals offer simple encouragement for women from all walks of life. Head on over and check them out. If you want to sign up, their daily notes will come straight to your email.} I wasn’t there…

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What Mom Gets a Labor-Free Day?

What Mom Gets a Labor-Free Day?

Welcome to September. In fact, Happy Labor Day. Labor Day, you say. The holiday that honors laborers with a day of rest from their long hours of back-breaking work. Are moms included? Who else slaves like I do, 24-7-52? A day off? I wish! But it’s not gonna happen. The little one has a runny nose; bickering tongues need silencing; school starts tomorrow; and stinky heaps of whites, lights, and coloreds have engulfed the laundry room. Somebody, slap a hand…

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