I wonder how much it would help our nonbiological children if they could grasp the fact that …
Jesus, too, felt abandoned by his father.
“My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?”
And, how much would it help us moms if we also latched onto this truth?
I wonder how we might change the way we parent if we applied the ways we feel when we think God has turned His back on us. Could tapping into our own feelings spur compassion and shape how we answer our children when their own sense of loss spawns horrific behaviors?
The truth is, our feelings of abandonment do prompt reactions. Because abandonment doesn’t feel good, fear and grief tend to direct insufficient responses.
Denying our own lack of faith, we tend to reply logically. We know that Jesus was restored to His father in a matter of days following His claim of abandonment. So we try to teach this hope to our children, all the while crying, Where are you, God?
Truth is, we can’t influence our children’s hearts when our own are shrouded in doubt.
There is a the part of the Christmas story that used to bother me. I questioned how the angels could possibly sing “Glory” to the highest God who would soon reject the very son He was sending. How was that cruel act going to bring peace or good will toward men?
Again, having read the whole story we know. We know that God wasn’t rejecting His son; He was rejecting the sin of the world that had been laid upon him.
So can we remember no matter how dark our world may appear, that when our lives are hidden in Christ, God never rejects us? He can’t forsake us. He said He wouldn’t and He cannot lie.
Allowing ourselves to re-feel a measure of the abandonment we’ve felt might lead us to a deeper compassion for our children. A compassion wrapped in absolute confidence that …
Weeping may last for the night, but a shout of joy comes in the morning.
Psalm 30:5 (NASB)
Jesus is the resurrection and the life.
That’s why we can join the angelic host, singing …
“Glory to God in the highest. Peace on earth good will to all men.” Luke 2:14
I pray this Christmas you will grow in your understanding that …
God has not left you as an orphan.
He delights in you. He is with you always. Just as you’ve brought children into your home, God has welcomed you into His. In fact, He doesn’t just welcome you, He paid a great price so that you could be a part of His family.
From abandonment to acknowledgment
From acknowledgement to acceptance
From acceptance to adoption
From adoption to access into the very presence of the Father
Freely and Forever!
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